"Are you right. Or are you left?".
My answer was always the same. "I'm right".
In turn, out of habit, I ask Izzy the same thing. The same way. And I get the same answer.
It only occured to me after asking her, that saying "I'm right" all the time, may not be a good thing. Am I conditioning her to always say "I'm right"?
I have to wonder if it is a good thing. I tend to have a 'She'll be right' mentality. I do believe I am a fabulous optimist, most of the time, with a can-do outlook.
I am one of those people that, when asked how I am, have the same stock standard answer. "Good Thanks!". Even when I am not. I am the eternal smiler. That smile though, covers a lot of emotion.
There was a chaplain in the mill I used to work at. I'd see him coming, and I knew he was heading for me. Sometimes I just didn't want to talk to anyone. But he'd come up and say with a big beaming smile, "Hello Smiley". I am guessing he knew. He knew the smile was a front, that I was one of those people he needed to talk to the most. I was nice to have that short little chat though. God bless him.
I have to wonder if saying "I'm right", for so many years, has just become the norm and I don't speak up enough when I am not alright.
I don't like to think that my Dad had something to do with that, I am sure he didn't. Dad has been my rock, always. Sometimes all it takes to feel loved, is for someone to ask "Are you right?". Really ask. It doesn't really matter about the left bit. It always made me feel important.
I guess the most important bit, is that when I ask Izzy, I really listen to her answer. I'd like to think if she gave me the stock standard answer, and I was really listening, I would know if she was really left.
So how are you? Are you right. Or are you left?
Do you have idioms you've gained from your parents and repeated them with your kids?
