Basically it's straws in the cup for good behaviours and taking straws out for bad behaviour.
My neighbour does a similar things with pop sticks. It seems to be working for her kids, and I was willing to give it a go. This is opposed to chaos and tearing my hair out in frustration. I was taking some control back where their behaviour is concerned.
To earn a straw the girls do things like
- brushing teeth
- making their bed
- cleaning up toys
- eating all their dinner
- doing amazingly good things
The cups live on top of our fridge, with a few other things, like a sixty odd year old photo of my dear Granny, some paint brushes and other odds and ends. |
Once they have six straws in their cup, they get a treat. It could be of their choosing, like a trip to the playground, a playdate, or an ice cream for example.
So far, they have had six straws twice. So I have taken all the straws out and replaced them with an Easter egg. Then the straw earning starts again.
My kids really don't have that many new toys(compared to some), so I guess this is a way that we can give them more in a measured way. They get that important lesson that good things are earned and new toys don't grow on trees.
This reward system seems to be working for us right now. The key I guess, is to be consistent.
What a fab idea, especially for younger kids and those who respond well to visuals. Stealing this one Alicia - hope you don't mind!
ReplyDeleteNot at all. I was glad I gave it a go :)
DeleteThis is great Alicia, I'm going to try this - we sure do need it! Off to get some straws. thanks for sharing xxx
ReplyDeleteI doesn't have to be straws I guess. Anything would work, even pebbles in a half egg carton. Straws is just what i had heaps of :)
DeleteThis is lovely Alicia! These things work so well with the little ones. Now I just need a solution for the teen ones - whole new set of tricks for that lot! PS: Your Grandmother looks quite a bit like you! x
ReplyDeleteI do look more like my mums side of the family. Hope it works for you, and good luck iwth the teenagers!
DeleteThis sounds like a good little system! I have recently taken to doing a sticker reward chat because I was feeling pretty murderous towards my four year old and all his naughty antics. So far, it's helping but I have to remember to really stick to removing stickers if the behavior isn't up to scratch too. They do respond to these kinds of charts I think. Glad you're winning again!
ReplyDeleteIt's a good feeling to be winning again! I don't know why I didn't do this sooner.
DeleteI love this system! A fantastic idea and one that works well without a doubt.:)
ReplyDeleteThat's a really good system for small children, if you find one that works for a 16 year old girl please let me know :-)
ReplyDeleteGood luck with that. Teenagers are a whole other can of worms, I am not at all really sure I did such a great job my first time round with my teenage son x
DeleteBrilliant idea you clever thing!!
ReplyDeleteMy big two are feral at the moment and nothing at all is working. I give up!!
What a great idea. I'm going to try this. We haven't done a reward system yet, but I think it's a great way for kids to learn. Thank you x
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Good for you! Whatever works, I say!
ReplyDeleteWhat a great idea. I love simplicity of it. I have tried sticker charts and then someone goes and nicks the stickers for a craft project! Love this.
ReplyDeleteLove this so much. As a teacher we obviously have many behaviour systems very similar to this that we use in the classroom and I used to try and get my parents follow the same sort of thing at home (for those parents who used to come and ask for advice anyway, I wouldn't dare tell parents how to raise their children!).
ReplyDeleteGood on you for taking back control and giving it a go and I am glad you are seeing the results as it obviously means something to the girls and they are enjoying it!
Straws are a great idea. We use reward charts - one's with Dinos the other is Thomas the Tank Engine. They have to get to 10 then we reward them with a toy. So far so good
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